This post has been on the back burner for a little while… In fact it was inspired my sister-in-law’s father as we skyped on Christmas. I always love to philosophize with him, and debate ideas/concepts/ways of being/life. He mentioned that he read my blog periodically and then asked “Do you ever have any bad days?” Amused, I replied of course. And promised him I would write about/on one of them.
HERE WE ARE!
Some days we get up and I’m not even sure what side of the bed it’s on but it seems worse than the bad one! Some days (like this morning) when all you’re trying to do is love, life gives you pain/hate (for example when my cat bit me this morning as I was petting him). Some days it feels as if you could take on every bully, danger, demon, or villain that comes your way. Other days it feels like if someone even looks at you the wrong way you could break.
I’m not sure why that is. Desiderata says “many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness”. Perhaps it’s because I’m battling a little cold. Perhaps it’s hormones. Perhaps it’s because it’s a Thursday. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.
We can rarely control what happens to us in life. Sometimes it’s even difficult to control what we feel. What we do have power over is how we react to those things. I’m not saying to swipe away the bad or negative events or emotions, but if we’re not satisfied by those things we must recognize that we can change some components. And perhaps by doing so the tides begin to change. Today I decided I had to take command of my poopy feelings; so far I have done a yoga class, told a friend I’d love to chat, and am writing this blog. Do I feel fantastic. Nope. Not even close. But I laughed and cried in the yoga class. I’m sure seeing my friend’s adorable baby will remind me of my perspective. And by processing my thoughts and feelings in this blog I begin to work through what’s helpful and let go of what’s not. I’m sure we all have different coping strategies for days like these (if you’d like to share I’d love to hear them!)
I think a lot of life is a delicate balance. We must find harmony between our reality (feelings/events) and our desires or what’s best for us. Before happiness one must find contentment. I believe that involves a level of acceptance. Not giving in mind you, but honouring what is in order to let go. Yet, one must not dwell here… One of the biggest reasons I write about things that are uplifting, positive, happy and inspiring is because that is what I want my life to be. I want to be a giant magnet for good. For love. For happiness. For bliss. With all of my thoughts, feelings and actions I attract exactly what I am thinking, feeling and doing. What do you want to attract to your life?
So David, there you go. It’s not all sunshine and lollipops. But even when the skies are grey I know there is a huge rainbow waiting to surprise me just around the corner!