I haven’t posted in quite some time (sorry about that!), but this morning I had a revelation that warranted sharing….
The last little while has presented our family with a variety of challenges. It’s just general life events (man this whole ‘adult responsibility/decision making’ stuff is a blast isn’t it!), but all of those little things can add up and begin to wear you down. This morning both my husband and I had reached our limits. We were frustrated, upset, and I personally felt powerless. Many of the issues we’re dealing with are beyond our control, and a lot of things in our lives are unknown right now. Having patience in a sea of uncertainty is a feat in and of itself without all of the other little things springing up here and there…
But I realized as I battled those feelings of frustration, fear, anger, and doubt that I was giving my power away. It felt like I was walking around with my heart outside of my body, or my brain not inside my head! As if someone was leading me blindly. But I gave them permission to do that. I basically held my hand out.
Thankfully after a bath and some meditation/mindfulness – I’M BACK!
By allowing other people to dictate my reaction I was giving them all of my power. I may not be able to control other people, the outcome of a situation or a decision that is made BUT I have complete power over my response to it. I’m not saying one shouldn’t feel those initial reactions of frustration or doubt because they are natural (and ignoring them may cause them to fester etc). However by letting go of them, focusing on what is within your spectrum of control, and manifesting the desired outcome we can better handle everything that comes our way in a more positive and productive manner. It’s not easy, it takes mental and emotional stamina – but in the long run it is a more sustainable attitude than being ‘beat up’ by the people and situations around us. We waste a lot of energy thinking of probable outcomes, things that could possibly go wrong, or fearing the worst… While one shouldn’t be blind to what may occur we need to save our strength to deal with whatever happens when it actually arises. And by cultivating a good attitude and nurturing a state of mind that is open, ready and free of clutter (yes… those voices…) we can conquer whatever challenge may come along.
After all, as they say in Desiderata “Many fears are born of fatigue, and loneliness”… and one of my favourites:
“The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong.” – Thomas Carlyle
I have been fortunate to have been introduced to meditation and mindfulness through my yoga practice, teacher training, and then through my own interest (and courses/studies I’ve pursued). My experience with it today just reminded me of the immense benefits of this type of daily practice. And here’s a quote that summarizes it beautifully.
“Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes.” – Tich Nhat Hanh
Have a beautiful day dear friends xo