I was in dance school when the concept of language really became interesting to me. Funny that as I’m learning to communicate without words their importance became so clear. Teachers there began to talk about what (and how) you say and it made me realize the words we choose and the way we say it has a huge affect on our behaviour/actions.
As I continued my teaching (as a gymnastics coach, dance & yoga teacher) I try to be very conscious of what I say. Our words can be limiting or opening, negative or positive, defeating or empowering, etc. When we speak with children our awareness is often heightened because of a role we play in their development. As Peggy O’Mara says “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”
Speaking out loud helps us to register what we’re actually saying. (Hopefully) We choose our words to others carefully and selectively, but what about what we say to ourselves? This post comes about as I prepare for a 2km erg test in a few hours. It’s not a lot of fun. Basically (for me) 8ish minutes of pain. And so I’ve been thinking about what I will say to myself in those moments…. when it starts to hurt, when the doubt is louder than the faith, when I want to quit, when I don’t know why I’m doing this in the first place, and I could go on and on.
You are what you believe yourself to be – Paulo Coelho
Everything in life is about choices. What we think and what we say are exactly that. A little while ago I posted about choosing which thoughts to surf, and I have to remember that today. Because even though there are moments where the voices of doubt grow louder, the belief, positivity and joy are still in there… I just have to play DJ and adjust the levels a bit to drown the bad ones out!
And so in this challenge today (and in every other aspect of my life), I will not let my head be my own worst enemy. I will not defeat myself before I begin. I will choose to believe, and if I begin to think thoughts that aren’t supporting me I will ask myself what I would say to a child, or to you… and then I will listen to the trust grow within me, and know that I can overcome anything, that with my relentless spirit I will do more than get through it I will conquer.
Thanks for this little public pep talk. Think about the words you say to yourself and the thoughts you think. Manifest the good within you and watch it blossom!
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine. – Ralph Waldo Emerson